Friday, July 12, 2013

What's Growing Around Here This Summer

This summer we have our first little vegetable garden with some lettuce, cucumbers, carrots and squash. But that's not the only thing that's growing around here. We got us some hair. Some big red curly hair. It's truly something to behold. Henry never had curls as a kid. Maybe a little wave- but nothing like this.

The Mr. has suddenly become a throw-back to fathers of the 60's. "Son, when you gonna get a haircut." There are way too many battles to wage with teenagers. Wild manes need not be added to that list. At least he shampoos and conditions each day.

I have a piece at Mamalode today. The publishers have been kind and generous enough to share my essay, Shedding with the greater Mamalode audience. The essay goes live at 4:00 PM EST. Please visit Mamalode - read my piece, read the contributions of others, enjoy. No other magazine highlights and celebrates the emotional aspect- the good, the bad, the humor and heartache- of parenting like Mamalode does.  Please feel free to share the link to the Mamalode piece. Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

I don't mind if he's here

Tank tops and old man socks
Unwashed summer copper hair
His stinky lair
I don’t mind if he’s here

I don’t mind if he is only starting to look for work
Instead of working
He works for me
Always wrangling the little one (a full time job anyway)
Anticipating when to get her out of my hair

I don’t mind that he doesn’t have a huge desire to get his  driver’s license
That he’s only just learning
I’m relieved that he’s not manning a vehicle by himself
Out of sight, on the road with lunatics
Away from me

I actually don’t even mind if his room is the black sheep of bedrooms
If he reeks
If he eats all of my gluten free cookies
and he’s not even on a gluten free diet
That he stays up late
Wakes up late
Grumbles in response to my suggestions about his life
That he doesn’t really know what he wants to do with his life

He’s only sixteen.
In a few months we’ll be filling out college applications
It’s a good thing our funds are all spoken for by our bi-weekly household needs
He can’t get too far away yet
He doesn’t want to

There’s time for working and driving and leaving
And showering so that you’re clean enough to attract a potential mate
I still have so much teaching to do-
How to wash laundry, make doctor’s appointments, order food at a restaurant ( that doesn’t serve chicken fingers); really scrub and disinfect a room; really take care of a dog (scratching behind the ears is only scratching the surface); balance a checking account and a meal; budget time; make difficult choices about relationships, finances, health; know when to call the plumber; shop for Christmas and birthday presents; listen to the women in his life and not try to fix them; live an authentic life- live and work and breathe with integrity…

The list goes on and on

I just need him to be solid and steady when he goes out on his own
To come home willingly when the call comes
And take care of me
one day

but for now, I don’t mind at all if he’s here

Thursday, July 4, 2013

Happy Independence Day

Have fun with the ones you love. Eat. Explode some stuff. And be safe and happy.

A picture of 'dents' might have been more phonetically appropriate, but 'dance' is much more celebratory. And I already had a picture of her dancing :-)